So last nights date was lovely, he actually turned up which was a major plus point, he was as tall as he said he was on the website, he looked like his pictures, he was totally charming and he made me laugh. Did I fancy him? Of course I didn’t! Oh bloody hell!
I’m not sure if my experiment is a success or a failure in this case? I don’t know if there were no butterflies in the stomach because I wasn’t expecting there to be or if I talked myself out of the butterflies. Can you ever manufacture the butterflies in the stomach feeling and if you can should you? I’m not saying that you should force yourself to fancy someone when you clearly never will (been there, tried that……it did not end well) but if you get on with someone and they make you laugh do you think you can get to the butterflies stage? On the flip side can you talk yourself out of the butterflies stage……by that I mean can you play something down in your head so much that any excitement /anticipation that you were potentially feeling gets squashed by your brain trying to be practical? Hmmmmm too many questions for one paragraph me thinks! Possibly too many mentions of the word butterflies too……
In any event I had a fab time, we had a few drinks, talked about many and varied subjects, ate some really good steak and have tentatively agreed to a second date (he really is lovely and he really did make me laugh)! I ended up semi dressing up for the evening in jeans and a silk top…..
……..this is the Dorothy Perkins number I mentioned before, I took the belt off and wore that as a head scarf and I like to think I look a little bit 50’s bombshell in the whole ensemble, or is that just me? These are my other pair of bold curve Levi’s jeans I bought early this year and they are just as fab fitting as the black ones I’ve shown you (yes these are dark blue…..I promise). As you can see the weird black splotches are nicely placed over my arm and the picture itself is just as fuzzy as ever……grrrr!
You should definitely give this guy another chance. My fella didn't give me butterflies at first but he seemed nice (and tall!) and so I saw him again and the butterflies came later. That was 7.5 years ago now.
I'm a practical sort of girl and never even consider getting butterflies in my tummy when I meet someone (well, apart from an exam or nerves, so it has negative associations!)Laughter, understanding and friendship mean so much more. Love the butterfly top though xx
i definitely think it's possible to get butterflies later as you get to know someone better. i couldn't stand my daughter's dad at first, but her grew on me, lol! we were together for 6 years after that.
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I totally agree with you but I need a little bit of the PHWOAR factor too x
I've agreed to another date so who knows! x
LOL! Fingers crossed for my second date x